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I guess, but it’s rather distant, I’m just too different from them.

No.

Pretty good

No. I cut off contact. My father was a alcoholic sociopath and my mom his enabler.

>>18899 >>18889 Do you think Bernds became Bernds because of their parents?

>>18908 It's a combination of various things, but shit parents definitely don't help one's predicament.

You literally have no excuse to be a Bernd if you have two sane parents

>>18908 Definitely. I especially think that a lack or an absent father creates high probability that the son will either become a criminal or a Bernd.

>>18920 There's a well established correlation with crime/dysfunction and fatherlessness but it need not necessarily be causal, or at least not entirely. I remember reading that most of this effect disappears once you control for children who ended up fatherless due to the father's early death. Which suggests that fucked up fatherless kids are the way they are because they inherited the genes of an irresponsible deadbeat, not because that irresponsible deadbeat isn't around.

>>18930 A child with a deadbeat father is raised by a mother that chose a deadbeat father to be her partner. In a functional family I would expect that there to still be a social net to catch the mother and the child if the father dies.

>>18931 >A child with a deadbeat father is raised by a mother that chose a deadbeat father to be her partner. Of course! And they also got the genes that made her irresponsible, likely high time-preference, and a bad judge of character. Which would all further contribute to the kids ending up dysfunctional. I don't want to be a total genetic determinist, because environment does play a role in outcomes and there's no point in denying it, but most people underestimate the degree they are 'encoded' from birth on the a whole so it needs to be emphasized.

I have a good relationship with my mother. My relationship with my dad is a bit strained. He is a very Spartan and hard working man so he always came across as being cold to me.